Dating Kinky
Fear biters (no, not the sexy kind of bite!)
May 11, 2022
Fearful people will seem fine until they are not, often seeming to change instantly from smiling and sweet to biting and snapping.
Yesterday, Selene called me exasperated. She went off on a rant about dogs. 

She said she'd rather deal with an aggressive dog than a fearful dog. Because aggressive dogs, you know exactly what you're getting, and you can work with and around them relatively effectively. 

But with fearful dogs, they will seem fine until they are not, often seeming to change instantly from wagging their tails to biting and snapping. 

Since neither of us have dogs right now, I wondered where she was going with that until she mentioned dealing with one of her relatives who was acting like a fearful dog. Fawning and being friendly one moment and snapping and snarling the next, and never knowing what she was going to encounter with them. 

Which reminded me of a conversation I was having Monday evening at the Durham Slosh with someone about dogs and dog training. 

And people. 

Because yeah, if I don't compare people's behavior to dog behavior a few times a year at least, you know I'm off my game. LOL!

People are the same way. 

SOME people are brash. They are naturally aggressive, pushy, and tend to roll over others without even realizing it. 


I call these people assholes. 

Sometimes fondly. 

Because with these people, what you see is what you get. 

Then, there are the others. 


The fearful people. 

The ones who hide their real thoughts and feelings, or try to suppress them to fit in better with the world—or at least the people they desperately want to fit in with. 

They are afraid that being themselves means that people wouldn't like them. 

And they're sometimes right. 

Find the full transcript for this episode here.

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