Your big 'But' is showing.
When you stick your big "but" out there for all to see (and hear), this is what happens.
Imagine you are with a kinky play partner, lounging around in the afterglow of an amazing scene and they say:
> "I really appreciate you as a friend, I am glad we get to spend time together, and I especially like how your kinks and mine are so compatible…," and then they pause and add "…BUT…."
Or someone says:
> "I was really impressed with that scene you did…but…"
> "That's an amazing corset…but…"
> "I like your new hairstyle…but…"
Or, one of my favorites:
> "You're right…but…"
Find the transcript for this episode here. https://datingkinky.com/blog/communication/your-but-is-showing/