Took me a long time to learn this lesson, but now that I've learned it, I can't even remember what it was like to feel another way. 

I mean, I remember pining after a boy. 

And I remember chasing him. 

And winning. 

And honestly, it was worth it. Then. That first time. 

If you had told me that I should not waste time on people who didn't love me then, I would have told you that you were dead wrong. 

I would have argued. 

I would have said "They don't love me YET." 

I would have stubbornly resisted. 

I may have even cried and screamed and threw a fit if you pushed the issue. 

Because my beliefs were that if I wanted something (someone), I had to make it happen. I had to prove that I was worth loving. I had to DO THINGS to show that I was valuable. 

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