Unpopular Opinion: I don't believe in unconditional love.
May 9, 2022
I don't want to know that I made you feel love for me yesterday or 13 days ago, or on your birthday last year, but that you love me now, today.
Furthermore, I loathe the idea.
It repulses me.
To me, it is the antithesis of what love is and should be, at least in a romantic relationship between adults.
Now, I'm not saying you can't love unconditionally. Not at all. I hope you will always do what works for you.
You probably eat radishes, too.
I think unconditional love is impossible. And it's unhealthy. It is for me.
(Again, if it works for you, I'm not here to yuck your yum.)
I believe love SHOULD be earned. Must be given because I am worth it. Not simply because I exist.
The best love to me is love that comes from seeing ME. Seeing me exactly as I am. All of the fun-sexy-amazing things and the flaws, and weighing all of that against your personal standards of worth and desires and finding out that I fit well and truly.
And the better I fit, the more love.
And I give the same in return.
Offering it unconditionally? That cheapens it for me.
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