Many of us have this fear, deep down inside. That we are bad people. Unlovable. Unwanted. Maybe crazy or mean. 

This fear is created and fed by every negative remark that has ever been said to us. They gather in that deep dark place, adding to our fears. 

And that fear is strong. 

Partially because it is allowed to grow unopposed. 

After all, one mean word gets stored forever, while we can't remember the hundred compliments that we've been given to offset it. 

And what does fear do with that strength? It lashes out. 

And when we lash out in fear, we actually feed that fear, because we all know that "actions speak louder than words," and that "who you are is what you do."

And both of those things are true. 

But they are not ALL true. 

Because who you are (including your fears) shapes what you do, and what you do then shapes who you are (including your fears). 

But they are not the same thing. 

And because they are not the same thing, you have a choice. 

Stop creating the wrong you. 

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