Where are ALL the creepsters?
July 8, 2022
And I don't find that all the people in kink (or dating, or whatever) are creepy. Not even most of them. Not even most of the (gasp) men.
That's a bit of a joke, but only sort of.
When people talk about 'all the creepsters,' I generally have a brief moment of confusion. Because my Brin has to process the statement, and my brain often has trouble with absolutes.
(It's why I don't do well with "What's your favorite..." questions.)
And I don't find that all the people in kink (or dating, or whatever) are creepy.
Not even most of them.
Not even most of the (gasp) men.
And I do get my fair share of creep, for sure. Being as public as I am gets me plenty of exposure.
But my brain always stutter steps when someone suggests that it's all creepsters out there.
Because that's not my experience.
And just the other day in conversations with two people who I think are absofuckinglutelybrilliant, this was said:
> Because we kind of have these two categories of bad behavior, one of which is "I wish you wouldn't do that" and one of which is "this person is a bad person." —@WhyTrustTomHanks on FetLife
And I get a lot of messages that I wish I didn't get. And meet a lot of people that if I never encounter them again, I'll be fine with that.
I'll say this:
Many approaches are poorly considered.
Find the full transcript for this episode here. https://datingkinky.com/blog/healthy-boundaries/where-are-all-the-creepsters/